Help Your Child Visit the Dentist! | 10 AMAZING HACKS in 2020!

Regular dental visits are essential in helping your child maintain good dental hygiene. For kids, however, visits to the dentist can be incredibly stressful and scary. Imagine it from your child’s perspective. She is sitting in a strange chair in a strange office with unfamiliar, scary-looking tools and sounds all around her. Strangers are poking cold metal objects into her mouth and possibly even causing pain during cleanings or treatments. Though these experiences can be scary for children, there are several things you can do to help relieve your child’s fear of dental practitioners. In this post, we’ll show you how to help your child visit the dentist! Let’s get cracking.


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Start Early

Begin taking your child to a dental practitioner as soon as his first tooth comes in. Most dentists recommend visiting the office before your child’s first birthday. Try to take your child to a kid-friendly dental practitioner. Pediatric dentists have additional training beyond dental school. They are experts at handling young, scared patients.


Schedule a Meet and Greet

Schedule time for your child to go to the dentist’s office to meet the staff there. Meeting the staff ahead of time and learning what to expect at her dental appointment can help your child feel less afraid when it’s time for her dental exam.


Keep a Positive Attitude

When talking with your child about seeing a dental practitioner, keep a positive attitude. You might tell him that the dental practitioner is going to, “count your teeth,” and that the dental hygienist is going to, “clean your teeth so they stay strong.” Even if you dread going to your dental practitioner, it’s important to maintain a positive attitude about the whole thing around your child.

Saying negative things about your own experiences will cause unnecessary fear for your child. Never talk about cavity fillings, root canals, and extractions in front of your child. Likewise, don’t allow friends or family members to share any of their dental horror stories in front of your child. Insist that any talk about visiting dental practitioners be positive.


Watch What You Say

Don’t use words like, “pain,” “shot,” or, “hurt,” when you talk about your child’s trip to the dentist’s office. Likewise, don’t tell your child that she might need a cavity filled before her exam. This will only cause anxiety for your child. If your child does have a cavity that needs filling, allow the dental practitioner to explain what will happen. A kid-friendly dental practitioner will have experience in making your child feel as comfortable as possible before and during the treatment process.


Practice at Home

You can role-play the part of a dental practitioner by counting your child’s pearly whites. You can also hold up a mirror to show how the doctor might look at your child’s mouth. Do not make any drilling sounds or mention cavities while you role play. Allow your child to role-play the part of the dental practitioner by giving him a toothbrush and allowing him to practice brushing on a stuffed animal. Role-playing at home will help your child get used to a dental routine.

You can also help prepare your child for a dental visit by purchasing cartoon books about visiting dentists. These books will have an easy-to-understand language and portray a positive attitude about regular dental care.

You may be tempted to take your child to your dentist’s office with you when you go for your checkup to show him that it’s not a scary place. However, this may backfire. A dentist’s office for adults is typically very different than one intended for children. Additionally, your child may pick up on your nervousness at your dental practitioner’s office, which can lead to him becoming even more anxious about his own appointment. Even if you don’t consciously feel anxious, children are very sensitive and can pick up on the most subtle emotions.


Allow the Dentist to Direct the Appointment

If your child’s dental practitioner allows you back in the exam room with your child, don’t maintain a constant stream of chatter. It’s tempting to try to distract your child while she’s in the dental chair. However, allowing the dental practitioner to talk to your child gives him the opportunity to build rapport and trust with your child. Allow your child’s dental practitioner to direct the appointment.

Know that it’s normal for children to not want to be examined by a stranger, and expect that your child might whine, cry, or squirm. Don’t scold your child. Rather, allow the dental practitioner to handle the situation. Allow him to direct you, and follow his instructions. He might ask you to hold your child’s hand or to allow your child to sit on your lap to help her feel more comfortable during the exam. Some kid-friendly dentists request that parents stay in the waiting room while their children see the dental practitioner. Respect this policy.


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Bring Something for Comfort

Kid-friendly dental offices have books, televisions, and even video games to help distract your child while he is there. However, bringing a favorite book, toy, or stuffed animal may provide your child with some extra comfort.


Don’t Bribe

Don’t promise your child a sugary treat if she behaves and doesn’t fuss or cry while at the dentist’s office. This may actually cause your child anxiety because she’ll wonder what’s so bad about dental visits that she would want to fuss or cry. Additionally, promising your child sugary treats goes against the advice dental professionals give. Dentists advise avoiding sugary treats because they can lead to cavities.

Instead, praise your child for her courage after she visits her dental practitioner. You might reward her with a small toy, coloring book, or stickers occasionally after dental visits to encourage her as well.


Schedule with the Same Hygienist

The hygienist is the professional that handles the majority of a routine dental cleaning and examination appointment. If your child likes a particular hygienist, try to schedule with her each and every time your child goes to the dentist’s office. This will help your child feel more comfortable and make visiting his dental practitioner a more positive experience.


Emphasize the Importance of Good Dental Hygiene

Model good oral hygiene for your child by brushing, flossing, and using mouthwash regularly. Let your child know that regular dental visits are necessary for strong and healthy teeth. It’s also important to encourage good dental hygiene at home. Even before your baby’s first tooth comes in, use a baby toothbrush or finger cot to brush his gums after every feeding. As your child grows, get him into the habit of brushing twice a day and flossing once a day.

Make your child’s dental hygiene routine fun at home. Purchase kid-friendly toothpaste and mouthwash for him to use. You can also make a chart where you add a sticker every morning and night when your child brushes. When your child has accumulated a certain number of stickers, reward him with a small toy or fun activity.




Going to the dentist’s office can be scary for children. Utilizing these tips will help you alleviate your child’s anxiety. Remember to keep a positive attitude before dental visits, and praise your child for her courage after visits are over. Taking your child to Dr. Darryl Engel regularly will help set her up for good oral hygiene throughout her life. Contact us today and get started.

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Help Your Child Visit the Dentist! | 10 AMAZING HACKS in 2020

15 replies
  1. Deb Pearl
    Deb Pearl says:

    I have a young son and daughter, and I have been wondering how I can get them to want to go to the dentist. I never thought about practicing things at home with my children. It would be fun to role-play what might happen. Then they won’t be as scared. Thank you for the tips!

    • Dr. Darryl Engel
      Dr. Darryl Engel says:

      Hi Deb, Make sure you explain the importance of having oral health in both childhood and adulthood. Our hacks are there to help both the children and the parents in confidently visiting the dentist. We wish you all the best in a life time of dental health.

  2. Dr. Darryl Engel
    Dr. Darryl Engel says:

    It is normal to be afraid. But with parental confidence and an expert dentist, we are sure your child will be happy to sit in a dentist chair.

  3. Sutton Turner
    Sutton Turner says:

    I like how you suggested starting early preparing kids for the dentist. I have been playing dentist with my son up until his appointment. Thanks for the tips for helping your child at the dentist.

    • Dr. Darryl Engel
      Dr. Darryl Engel says:

      hi Sutton,

      You are welcome. It is both important and fun to have your child prepared for the dentist. Playing dentist games is both important and fun. We wish you and your son a lifetime of good dental health


  4. Burt Silver
    Burt Silver says:

    I really like what you said about keeping a positive attitude when taking your kids to the dentist and how that can help their perspective of going to the dentist. Lately, my son hasn’t been wanting to go to the dentist and I’m trying to encourage him to do so but he is scared. Hopefully, we can find a pediatric dentist that specializes with children and that my son will like going there.

    • Dr. Darryl Engel
      Dr. Darryl Engel says:

      Hi Burt,

      Thanks for your comment. At KinderSmiles we specialize in pediatric care. We love kids and we love their teeth. We are sure you can find a specialist in your area, if not then you can find us in New Jersey. Good luck with your mission.


      Kinder Smiles

  5. Sandra Patterson
    Sandra Patterson says:

    You make a great point about letting your child know that regular dental visits are necessary for strong and healthy teeth. My son is only two years old, but I do know that I will need to find him a dentist soon so that he can get used to it as soon as possible. I will be sure to remember to look into finding him a good dentist so that he can start getting used to dentist visits at a young age.

  6. Kate Hansen
    Kate Hansen says:

    I like how you said that you should schedule a time for your child to meet the dentist and staff. I’m planning on taking my 2-year-old child to their first dentist appointment in the future and I’m hoping that they won’t be too scared. I’ll keep this in mind for when I find a dentist for them.

    • Dr. Darryl Engel
      Dr. Darryl Engel says:

      Hi Kate,

      Yes, we have found that a child is less scared of the dentist when they have met the grown-ups already. The fave toy is always best to take with you. We wish you the best in finding a dentist and for that big first appointment. We can help for sure if you are in the NJ area.

  7. Faylinn Byrne
    Faylinn Byrne says:

    Wow, I had never considered that you can role-play the part of a dental practitioner at home! My daughter is finally losing her baby teeth and she is starting to grow her adult teeth, so I think it is time we go to the dentist but she seems to be afraid. I will put these tips into action and also find a dentist that will help her feel at home.

    • Dr. Darryl Engel
      Dr. Darryl Engel says:

      Hi Faylinn,

      Glad you got some new ideas from our post. It is normal for a young girl to be afraid of the dentist. Our tricks should help smooth the process a little.

  8. James Borst
    James Borst says:

    I appreciate your recommendation to avoid telling your child that they may need a cavity filled before their exam. My wife and I have a daughter and she has already gotten three cavities filled. We may consider talking to someone at the pediatric dental clinic for recommendations to better prevent cavities.

  9. Oscar Morrison
    Oscar Morrison says:

    I like the idea of finding a hygenist my son likes and sticking with them to help him feel comfortable. He’s always been anxious about going to the dentist because we moved around a lot while he was little and each time we had to visit someone new. Maybe now that we’ve settled we can find somewhere to consistently go and see if that helps him feel more comfortable.

  10. Ellie Davis
    Ellie Davis says:

    I loved that you mentioned you need to consider keeping a positive attitude when taking your kid to the dentist. My sister is thinking about how to take her kid to a dentist for the first time, and we are looking for advice about what to do. I will let her know about your recommendations to choose the right dentist for her kid.


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